It's Time to Start Saying "NO"

If you aren't where you want to be in your life right now, you need to start saying "NO".

I'm not asking you to be belligerent, but I am asking you to take your feelings and needs into account.

We all have been at a point in our lives when we question some pretty big questions.  

You wonder how you became an accountant when in school you wanted to be actor.  

Or maybe you are living in Minnesota when you really can't stand cold weather.

Instead of being an actor in California, you are an accountant in Minneapolis.  There's absolutely nothing wrong with being an accountant or living in Minnesota.  But there is if you don't like numbers or frosty winters.

You end up living someone else's life when you don't say no.  You make a compromise here and a compromise there, and before you know it, you don't even recognize your life.

Don't be downright belligerent, insisting you get your way. Compromise is great for little things, like what restaurant to go to for dinner.  But it definitely doesn't serve you with the big decisions, like where to live or what to do for work.

Here is the big thing to remember...

You can't have the life you want if you don't know what that life is.

Spend time each day getting to know yourself better.  Define what kind of life you want to have.  Where do you want to live, what do you want to do?  Ask the questions.  Get the answers and then make decisions based on what those desires are.

And to the very point of this email, say no when someone asks you to do something that doesn't line up with your vision of the life you want for yourself.

It's not being selfish when you takes step to create the life you want.

If you don't say no when it's no inline with your dreams , then you might find your desk in Minneapolis to be very cold in December.  And you might be missing your the red carpet in LA.

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